Comments on: Adventures in Co-Sleeping…My Love/Hate Relationship and My Destiny to Always be a Mommy Sandwich http://theohanamama.com/2009/10/adventures-in-co-sleeping-my-lovehate-relationship-and-my-destiny-to-always-be-a-mommy-sandwich/ a mommy blog written from paradise Sun, 21 Mar 2010 13:03:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Lisa http://theohanamama.com/2009/10/adventures-in-co-sleeping-my-lovehate-relationship-and-my-destiny-to-always-be-a-mommy-sandwich/comment-page-1/#comment-17493 Lisa Thu, 12 Nov 2009 07:07:04 +0000 http://theohanamama.com/?p=2394#comment-17493 Aloha Sarah! For some reason, I started my son off in his own bed right from the get-go. I think I was mainly afraid of rolling over him @ night! Sooo... I have a love/hate relationship with his illnesses! Whenever Nate is sick, he needs to sleep in bed with my hubby and I. I absolutely treasure those nights. I always think, "oh no, he might not go back into his own bed after 2-3 nights like this!" But inevitably he does. I have to say, while I love snuggling with him on those occasions, I'm happy to settle back into our regular routine of just hubby and I in the sack as sometimes Nate tends to be a squirmy worm. We've both been kicked in the face a few times (good thing he's so darn cute when he's sleeping!) One thing I haven't given up yet is rocking him to sleep (20mo.). I always hear people brag about how their kids go down on their own, but not mine. We rock and snuggle. I'm not a SAHM/WAHM so I just love that little snuggle time we get and melt when he falls asleep in my arms, but then into his own bed he goes for the night. Have you tried a new night-time routine? Tub -> reading -> snuggling -> sneak out of the room! Aloha Sarah! For some reason, I started my son off in his own bed right from the get-go. I think I was mainly afraid of rolling over him @ night! Sooo… I have a love/hate relationship with his illnesses! Whenever Nate is sick, he needs to sleep in bed with my hubby and I. I absolutely treasure those nights. I always think, “oh no, he might not go back into his own bed after 2-3 nights like this!” But inevitably he does. I have to say, while I love snuggling with him on those occasions, I’m happy to settle back into our regular routine of just hubby and I in the sack as sometimes Nate tends to be a squirmy worm. We’ve both been kicked in the face a few times (good thing he’s so darn cute when he’s sleeping!) One thing I haven’t given up yet is rocking him to sleep (20mo.). I always hear people brag about how their kids go down on their own, but not mine. We rock and snuggle. I’m not a SAHM/WAHM so I just love that little snuggle time we get and melt when he falls asleep in my arms, but then into his own bed he goes for the night. Have you tried a new night-time routine? Tub -> reading -> snuggling -> sneak out of the room!

]]> By: Allie http://theohanamama.com/2009/10/adventures-in-co-sleeping-my-lovehate-relationship-and-my-destiny-to-always-be-a-mommy-sandwich/comment-page-1/#comment-16796 Allie Wed, 28 Oct 2009 15:16:50 +0000 http://theohanamama.com/?p=2394#comment-16796 I sleep in my son's bed. We were smart enough to get him a big bed because he needs us to lay with him to get to sleep. He's almost 3. I don't always go straight into his room at bedtime , sometimes I go to mine but those nights he wakes up finds me and leads me back to his bed. If I just start out in his bed he sleeps through and so do I. So no advice- just commiseration ! I sleep in my son’s bed. We were smart enough to get him a big bed because he needs us to lay with him to get to sleep. He’s almost 3. I don’t always go straight into his room at bedtime , sometimes I go to mine but those nights he wakes up finds me and leads me back to his bed. If I just start out in his bed he sleeps through and so do I.

So no advice- just commiseration !

]]> By: Sarah http://theohanamama.com/2009/10/adventures-in-co-sleeping-my-lovehate-relationship-and-my-destiny-to-always-be-a-mommy-sandwich/comment-page-1/#comment-16734 Sarah Mon, 26 Oct 2009 09:16:42 +0000 http://theohanamama.com/?p=2394#comment-16734 Oh Jenny, Hubby and I have gone around and around the merry go round of "he needs to get out of our bed!" "but we love having him in" "No really, this time, I mean it, we need to get him in his own bed" "Oh but look at how sweet he is and it's so nice that we all actually sleep" (sort of) I know there there are others like us, I mean me....I mean Cam is almost 5. FIVE! Yeah, time to cute the ties... Thanks for stopping by, reading and commenting...come back again!! Sarah Oh Jenny, Hubby and I have gone around and around the merry go round of “he needs to get out of our bed!” “but we love having him in” “No really, this time, I mean it, we need to get him in his own bed” “Oh but look at how sweet he is and it’s so nice that we all actually sleep” (sort of)

I know there there are others like us, I mean me….I mean Cam is almost 5. FIVE! Yeah, time to cute the ties…

Thanks for stopping by, reading and commenting…come back again!!

Sarah

]]> By: jenny http://theohanamama.com/2009/10/adventures-in-co-sleeping-my-lovehate-relationship-and-my-destiny-to-always-be-a-mommy-sandwich/comment-page-1/#comment-16733 jenny Mon, 26 Oct 2009 08:46:44 +0000 http://theohanamama.com/?p=2394#comment-16733 Hi, I just stumbled upon your site, and saw this post. I was laughing so loud! The same thing happens to me every night. I am embarrassed to tell people that I still co-sleep with my 19 month old, and that he nurses at night still sometimes. He recently had 4 cavities filled, so I think it's from the night nursing? :( I feel horrible, and I also sleep like a dog at the foot of the bed, but my husband is also in the bed, so I REALLY have no room. I have to curl up to fit, even at the foot of the bed! I think i miss my son a lot since I work during the day, so it's nice to be with him at night, but I am sooooo ready to move him to his own bed. All of a sudden my husband says, no, I like him in the bed with us. Well sheesh, that's because you don't have to sleep at the foot of the bed! Haha. Good luck, and let me know how it goes! :) Hi, I just stumbled upon your site, and saw this post. I was laughing so loud! The same thing happens to me every night. I am embarrassed to tell people that I still co-sleep with my 19 month old, and that he nurses at night still sometimes. He recently had 4 cavities filled, so I think it’s from the night nursing? :( I feel horrible, and I also sleep like a dog at the foot of the bed, but my husband is also in the bed, so I REALLY have no room. I have to curl up to fit, even at the foot of the bed! I think i miss my son a lot since I work during the day, so it’s nice to be with him at night, but I am sooooo ready to move him to his own bed. All of a sudden my husband says, no, I like him in the bed with us. Well sheesh, that’s because you don’t have to sleep at the foot of the bed! Haha. Good luck, and let me know how it goes! :)

]]> By: Tiaras & Tantrums http://theohanamama.com/2009/10/adventures-in-co-sleeping-my-lovehate-relationship-and-my-destiny-to-always-be-a-mommy-sandwich/comment-page-1/#comment-16728 Tiaras & Tantrums Mon, 26 Oct 2009 05:47:23 +0000 http://theohanamama.com/?p=2394#comment-16728 I co-sleep - i have with all three of my kids - started with my son almost 8 years ago. Like you - ferberizing DOES NOT WORK!!!!!! This only gave my son a sleep radar that was like not other radar in the universe! My son slept ON TOP OF me for the first 9 months of his life. Literally if his little toosh touched a sheet he was screaming. By 12 months he would sleep with my arm around him. Before his 2nd birthday he sort of had to adjust to sleeping only by me as he had a new baby sister. Who also slept with us, not 100% of the time, but definitely up to 10-12 months (I can't really recall right now) I moved her into a crib at around 12 months in her own room and this only lasted a couple of months (we moved and the transition sucked). She was in our bed and so was our son. They both slept with us until my son was 5 (almost 6). Once my son started Kind., we told him he had to sleep in his bed on school nights. My husband slept with him for over 6 months(no joke). But I had another baby by that time. So me and the 1st daughter slept in our bed with the baby in the bassinet. New baby decided at 9 months that she wanted in on the King bed action. She still sleeps with me (she is 3 years and 5 months- I nursed her until she was 32 months). My son still comes in about 40-50% of the time half way through the night (in fact, he has already been down here to me at the computer telling me he is going to my bed). My daughter ( 6 years old now) still come in about 50-75% of the time half way through the night. I HAVE to say that after almost 8 years of sleeping with kids - I CAN'T sleep unless my kids are in bed with me! Sorry so lon g- once you get it figured out - can you come visit me and help me!! .-= Tiaras & Tantrums´s last blog ..<a href="http://www.tiarastantrums.com/2009/10/i-faces-halloween-dress-up.html" rel="nofollow">I ♥ Faces ~ Halloween Dress-Up</a> =-. I co-sleep – i have with all three of my kids – started with my son almost 8 years ago. Like you – ferberizing DOES NOT WORK!!!!!! This only gave my son a sleep radar that was like not other radar in the universe! My son slept ON TOP OF me for the first 9 months of his life. Literally if his little toosh touched a sheet he was screaming. By 12 months he would sleep with my arm around him. Before his 2nd birthday he sort of had to adjust to sleeping only by me as he had a new baby sister. Who also slept with us, not 100% of the time, but definitely up to 10-12 months (I can’t really recall right now) I moved her into a crib at around 12 months in her own room and this only lasted a couple of months (we moved and the transition sucked). She was in our bed and so was our son. They both slept with us until my son was 5 (almost 6). Once my son started Kind., we told him he had to sleep in his bed on school nights. My husband slept with him for over 6 months(no joke). But I had another baby by that time. So me and the 1st daughter slept in our bed with the baby in the bassinet. New baby decided at 9 months that she wanted in on the King bed action. She still sleeps with me (she is 3 years and 5 months- I nursed her until she was 32 months). My son still comes in about 40-50% of the time half way through the night (in fact, he has already been down here to me at the computer telling me he is going to my bed). My daughter ( 6 years old now) still come in about 50-75% of the time half way through the night. I HAVE to say that after almost 8 years of sleeping with kids – I CAN’T sleep unless my kids are in bed with me!

Sorry so lon g- once you get it figured out – can you come visit me and help me!!
Tiaras & Tantrums´s last blog ..I ♥ Faces ~ Halloween Dress-Up My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Sarah http://theohanamama.com/2009/10/adventures-in-co-sleeping-my-lovehate-relationship-and-my-destiny-to-always-be-a-mommy-sandwich/comment-page-1/#comment-16723 Sarah Sun, 25 Oct 2009 23:33:50 +0000 http://theohanamama.com/?p=2394#comment-16723 Thanks Leane and Casey! Great ideas! We have gotten him a Queen size bed (the one "Desi" is sleeping on at the moment) I think the new sheets/new decor for the room might work...but it'll have to be sheets that both kids like. Thankfully Leah is way into being just like her brother so I don't think that'll be hard. I already started talking the idea up to Cam and he was into it...we shall see! Thanks Leane and Casey! Great ideas!

We have gotten him a Queen size bed (the one “Desi” is sleeping on at the moment) I think the new sheets/new decor for the room might work…but it’ll have to be sheets that both kids like. Thankfully Leah is way into being just like her brother so I don’t think that’ll be hard. I already started talking the idea up to Cam and he was into it…we shall see!

]]> By: Leane http://theohanamama.com/2009/10/adventures-in-co-sleeping-my-lovehate-relationship-and-my-destiny-to-always-be-a-mommy-sandwich/comment-page-1/#comment-16722 Leane Sun, 25 Oct 2009 23:25:32 +0000 http://theohanamama.com/?p=2394#comment-16722 Love the new layout look. We co-slept very shortly with my son when he was about 6 mo old and I loved to hear his every breath, but I also realized I did not sleep very well. I slept better when he was in his bassinet beside our bed, instead of being IN our bed. Eventually we moved the bassinet to his own room, then from the bassinet he went straight into a king sized bed that is on the floor. The bed is huge and comfortable, lined with pillows, blankets, and snuggly stuffed animals. We don't have to fight about bedtimes or naps! He LOVES his bed! Maybe you could try a mattress beside your bed (on the floor) for Cam and then eventually move it into the other room..... Best wishes for you and DESI :) (a.k.a. the hubs) in your operation execution! .-= Leane´s last blog ..<a href="http://my-bloggy-mind.blogspot.com/2009/10/win-what-where-my-sentiment-exactlee.html" rel="nofollow">Win, What, Where?!? My Sentiment ExactLee</a> =-. Love the new layout look.

We co-slept very shortly with my son when he was about 6 mo old and I loved to hear his every breath, but I also realized I did not sleep very well. I slept better when he was in his bassinet beside our bed, instead of being IN our bed. Eventually we moved the bassinet to his own room, then from the bassinet he went straight into a king sized bed that is on the floor. The bed is huge and comfortable, lined with pillows, blankets, and snuggly stuffed animals. We don’t have to fight about bedtimes or naps! He LOVES his bed!

Maybe you could try a mattress beside your bed (on the floor) for Cam and then eventually move it into the other room…..

Best wishes for you and DESI :) (a.k.a. the hubs) in your operation execution!
Leane´s last blog ..Win, What, Where?!? My Sentiment ExactLee My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Casey Becher http://theohanamama.com/2009/10/adventures-in-co-sleeping-my-lovehate-relationship-and-my-destiny-to-always-be-a-mommy-sandwich/comment-page-1/#comment-16721 Casey Becher Sun, 25 Oct 2009 18:06:04 +0000 http://theohanamama.com/?p=2394#comment-16721 You could try getting Cam a super-cool big boy bed (or bedding set) and make a HUGE production about how he's getting so big and is now old enough to sleep in his own bed. Or try reverse psychology: Show him some very cool bed or bedding sets online and remark about how cool they are and how much you'd love to buy one for him ... if only he were big enough to sleep in his own bed, like a big boy. .-= Casey Becher´s last blog ..<a href="http://kcmomblog.blogspot.com/2009/10/win-wii-family-fun-football-game.html" rel="nofollow">Win a Wii Family Fun Football Game</a> =-. You could try getting Cam a super-cool big boy bed (or bedding set) and make a HUGE production about how he’s getting so big and is now old enough to sleep in his own bed.

Or try reverse psychology: Show him some very cool bed or bedding sets online and remark about how cool they are and how much you’d love to buy one for him … if only he were big enough to sleep in his own bed, like a big boy.
Casey Becher´s last blog ..Win a Wii Family Fun Football Game My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Amera http://theohanamama.com/2009/10/adventures-in-co-sleeping-my-lovehate-relationship-and-my-destiny-to-always-be-a-mommy-sandwich/comment-page-1/#comment-16713 Amera Sun, 25 Oct 2009 01:17:58 +0000 http://theohanamama.com/?p=2394#comment-16713 We didn't co-sleep and I must admit I'm a big fan of kid space/parent space for several personal reasons including inability to sleep with a worm (which both of them are!) - however on getting 2 kids to share a room. My 5 and 2 (almost 3) year old share a room. They didn't always, in fact one of them used to always be in our room, just in their own bed. One son had to do the cry for a 3-5 minutes and pass out the other one just would play with the little one. However - no more! We have their beds in a T shape -so that they aren't able to look at each other. We tuck them in and lay with each of them for 2 minutes after reading their goo dnight story. Then that's it! I wish there were more tricks to it but really it just took about a week or reinforcing that it was bedtime and not playtime and they quit trying! We didn’t co-sleep and I must admit I’m a big fan of kid space/parent space for several personal reasons including inability to sleep with a worm (which both of them are!) – however on getting 2 kids to share a room. My 5 and 2 (almost 3) year old share a room. They didn’t always, in fact one of them used to always be in our room, just in their own bed. One son had to do the cry for a 3-5 minutes and pass out the other one just would play with the little one. However – no more! We have their beds in a T shape -so that they aren’t able to look at each other. We tuck them in and lay with each of them for 2 minutes after reading their goo dnight story. Then that’s it! I wish there were more tricks to it but really it just took about a week or reinforcing that it was bedtime and not playtime and they quit trying!

]]> By: NanaTutu http://theohanamama.com/2009/10/adventures-in-co-sleeping-my-lovehate-relationship-and-my-destiny-to-always-be-a-mommy-sandwich/comment-page-1/#comment-16709 NanaTutu Sat, 24 Oct 2009 18:20:41 +0000 http://theohanamama.com/?p=2394#comment-16709 Try putting them both in same double/queen bed with rails (either on one side and bed against wall - put Cam on wall side so Leah doesn't squirm down the side and get caught) or rails on both sides of the bed - maybe invest in a body pillow for along the bottom of the bed. Or use the body pillow as a lovey for Cam to hug (or you substitute for yourself once he is asleep and you retreat to your own bed). As far as one waking up the other, well, if they are to be sharing a room, they will have to get used to hearing each other and learn to sleep through it or at least awaken to see what's up and them with some reassurance from Mom and/or Dad, just simply go back to sleep. Remember "white noise" very subtly might also help to get them to adjust to sleeping through noises ie like sibling fussing in the night. Try using some white noise (soft radio static noise or soft lullaby or surf noise - it may lull them to sleep and keep it going through the night- may also suffice as a substitute for your breathing like when you are sleeping with Cam - subsciously he will hear the white noise and hug the body pillow and you can retreat! Try putting them both in same double/queen bed with rails (either on one side and bed against wall – put Cam on wall side so Leah doesn’t squirm down the side and get caught) or rails on both sides of the bed – maybe invest in a body pillow for along the bottom of the bed. Or use the body pillow as a lovey for Cam to hug (or you substitute for yourself once he is asleep and you retreat to your own bed). As far as one waking up the other, well, if they are to be sharing a room, they will have to get used to hearing each other and learn to sleep through it or at least awaken to see what’s up and them with some reassurance from Mom and/or Dad, just simply go back to sleep. Remember “white noise” very subtly might also help to get them to adjust to sleeping through noises ie like sibling fussing in the night. Try using some white noise (soft radio static noise or soft lullaby or surf noise – it may lull them to sleep and keep it going through the night- may also suffice as a substitute for your breathing like when you are sleeping with Cam – subsciously he will hear the white noise and hug the body pillow and you can retreat!

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