What will become of the SAHM when the kids go to school?

Deep thoughts by The Ohana Mama… haha, not really just something I’ve been thinking about lately, as my children seem to be getting older by the minute and I am reminded that next year at this time I will have one in kindergarten every day and one in preschool at least 3 full days a week.  

And me….where will I be?  

What happens to the SAHM when her kids go to school?

In this economy you might say, “well she needs to now go out and get a JOB!” But aha, I already work from home.  So my time will be taken up but it’s the mommy part that I will be without 6 hours of the day that has me in a bit of a tail spin.

So I made this quick video the other day and would love to hear your thoughts!

(**psst and I totally know that the plural of crisis is crises (pronounced “crise-eez”) but stick with me…I was doing the video quickly, in between putting together those puzzles at my feet…watch the video, you’ll get what I mean)

Times, they are a changin’ from Sarah Burns on Vimeo.


  1. Honestly this might be a fun time for you! My kids are now all in middle school and during elementary I had the opportunity to chaperone field trips and get to know my boys’ friends. A lot of kids recognize me and talk to me if I stop at the school for something now or just out in public. There will be opportunities to be in the PTA and you can always volunteer in the classroom or with another charity that fills your heart with compassion. If you feel like being a hermit for a week at a time that is okay too!
    .-= Heather @ My Red Apron´s last blog ..EA Play Reviews & Wii Game Giveaway =-.

  2. I’m not a SAHM, although I’d give anything to be one, or better yet, a WAHM, However, I imagine that when your children go to school, you take that time to do things for yourself. Have your own play dates. Do some art. Write more often. Volunteer. Sunbathe. Whatever it is that you need to do for you. Maybe projects around the house. I think you just embrace the process.
    .-= Renee´s last blog ..Maturity Seeps Through Our Pores =-.

  3. HI Sarah!
    Great vlog. Love those!

    I am an in-home daycare provider, but I struggle with whether or not I’ll do it once my kids are big enough to be in school full time. I want to be able to work on my blog and be available for school parties, car pooling and sick kids. So, I hope to still stay home. Just not sure it will be in daycare. My kids are 1 and 3 – so I have a little time, but better get on my plan to make it happen!
    .-= Kasey@All Things Mamma´s last blog ..Green Tip – Close That Oven Door =-.

  4. Howzit Sistah
    Let me just say from experience, 5 times over, that when your kiddos are all in school full time you have a few panic attacks because you realize that this is what you have devoted your life to for years and years and that stage is now ending. You go through an identity crisis of sorts for a short time, but it’s all good. You just figure out how to roll on to the next stage. Then that stage ends and you go onto the next. No need for freaking out here. Eventually you fit into the groove of your next stage and that gets even busier than the last. Surround yourself with people at different stages in life, they are a wealth of knowledge and support, but most of all……relax…you might, at some point, decide that having some free time to yourself will open up some new possibilities for you and that makes for a hauoli ohana. Aloha
    .-= Susan´s last blog ..Cha Ching =-.

  5. Here’s a twist.
    I am a full-time work-out-of-the-home mom. When Winston goes to kindergarten in a little over 2 years, I know things are going to have to change. We don’t have full-day kindergarten in my state. What do we do?
    Do we have him go to a (new!) daycare after school (or before if he’s assigned mornings), and then how does he get there? Do they have a bus that picks him up from school? Or we hire someone to pick him up and take him home? Hire a nanny? Oy vey! Or do we put him in a private kindergarten that is full days? OR … drum roll …. do I try to work a flexible schedule so that I am the one getting him to and from school? I can’t quit my job, but maybe I try to do part-time and juggle (?). Maybe hubbie can do it? Personally, I don’t like him going to two different “non-home” places in a day. I’d prefer he go to school and then home. But who knows what we’ll be able to work out.

    In any case, the roles we play and how we deal with this new reality are going to change. Big time.
    Hang in there. We all seem to go through it one way or another. Hugs!

  6. Thanks Karen. It’s nice to hear how others dealt with this!!

  7. I had become a wahm when my older son was born in 1999. After my second one was born, I decided to stop working from home and just enjoy my time with them. It goes so quickly. I don’t regret my decision at all. Last year was surreal though. My older one was in the 4th grade and my younger started kindergarten. I had SEVEN hours to myself, FIVE days a week! At the beginning, I felt like I was on autopilot. Just going through the days without a plan… probably spending more time than I should online. After some “soul-searching” I decided to find a part-time job outside the home and it has been a blessing. I love the fact that I have co-workers, a steady paycheck and doing something that I really love. I feel like I’m in a much better place than I was at this time last year.

    Each person has their own story, but I think it is wise to plan ahead.
    .-= Karen´s last blog ..Boy heaven =-.

  8. Yeah and since school ends at 2 we sorta have to be at home if we don’t have another way of them being taken care of.

    But have you found that you are back to searching for what YOU want to do to fill those hours? I mean no more butts to wipe or playdates to take up the morning. Now I will get to explore MY needs a bit more and damn it’s been a long long time since I was even in the equation…thankfully we have blogging huh?! :)

    Ooh and maybe I’ll then shower every day…and do my hair! WOW!

  9. I have thought about this. I was going to go back to school but then I decided that I wanted to be available to them when they are sick, have parties or anything else. My husband agrees.
    .-= Gena Morris´s last blog ..I want a divorce! =-.


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