When I found out that my friend, whom I met through the MomDot forums, Shellie at Blog4Mom had sadly lost her two year old son, Bryson, yesterday in a drowning accident, I was reeling. I still am.

I had actually been perusing her twitter pics before all this happened. I was in awe of her new gorgeous home, the adorable pic of her two year old on their dock.  It was a new home, new surroundings, a new pool to Bryson. Her husband was away for training, as he was set to go to Iraq, again, soon. My heart broke when I saw the news online and it continues to ache for her and her family.

I wrote this tiny poem to my children…I hope to read it and remember it often and never take them for granted.

To my children, my wonderful, testing, mischievous and glorious children…

I may raise my voice and say no a hundred times

But I kiss you many more and I tell you, it’s sublime.

And even when you push me away and say “ok, no more”

I kiss you one more time, I can’t help it, it’s you that I adore.

I may get flustered when you whine or yell or spill on the white rug

But I also get so happy to wake up each morning to your little mug

And even when you empty a tube of desitin and place it on your face

THIS where I want to be, there is no other place

And when you pee outside for all  the world to see

I need to laugh, not yell, it’s just your curiosity (“what can I make with my pee stream, mommy!?” he says!)

So yes mommy has tantrums, and mommy sometimes needs a break

But you dear children are my loves, my life, and my saving grace.

You are my greatest novel, my favorite piece of art

I promise you patience, love, understanding and forever my heart

Trisha at MomDot is in the process of setting up a way that we can all help Shellie and her family get through this horrible tragedy.  Please visit Momdot for updates.  My heart, thoughts and prayers are with you Shellie.


  1. My little brother drowned just after he turned 7. I was nearly 11 at the time, and I remember how hard it was to live with the loss and cope with the empty spot he left in all of our lives. Someone share a special poem with us after he died that we found comfort in. Please share it with Shellie in hopes that one day it may provide just a tiny amount of comfort to her in coping with her loss.

    I’ll Lend You For A Little Time A Child

    I’ll lend you for a little time a child of mine.”He said.
    “For you to love while he lives,
    And mourn for when he is dead.
    It may be six or seven years, or twenty two or three.
    But will you, till I call him back,
    Take care of him for Me?
    He’ll bring his charms to gladden you,
    And shall his stay be brief,
    You’ll have his lovely memories as solace for your grief.

    I cannot promise he will stay,
    since all from earth return,
    But there are lessons taught down there,
    I want this child to learn.
    I’ve looked the wide world over,
    In search for teachers true,
    And from the throngs that crowd life’s lane,
    I have selected you.
    Now you will give him all your love,
    Nor think the labor vain,
    Nor hate me when I come to call, to take him back again?

    I fancied that I heard them say:
    “Dear Lord, Thy will be done.”
    For all the joy thy child shall bring,
    The risk of grief we’ll run.
    We’ll shelter him with tenderness,
    we’ll love him while we may,
    And for happiness we’ve known,
    Forever grateful stay;
    We’ll brave the bitter grief that comes,
    And try to understand.

    –By Edgar Guest
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  2. We are all bound together as Moms.. and blessedly grandmom…. we are not supposed to outlive our children, and especially one so young. All of our hearts ache together with Shellie (even though we may have never met, we all share being a mother) this type of loss is devastating. Your poem Sarah is a beautiful gift and tribute to your own children but also a lovely tribute to Shellie and her son Bryson. It sums it all up – you cannot love and nurture and care for a child 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, the loss is inconceiveable. It takes almost a year of growth in the womb and then hours giving birth and it never ceases to amaze me how quickly, almost instantly, a life can be taken. My heart also aches for this family – and at a holiday season too. May Shellie and her family find their peace and may God wrap them in His Robe and let them know Bryson will forever live in their hearts and in the memories of so many many other Mothers. They will be in my prayers. Hug your babes and kiss them daily, multiple times daily no matter how much they fuss.

  3. Beautiful poem Sarah! (the pee outside part cracked me up…thank you for the laugh, they’ve been few lately)

    I am so heartbroken for Shellie and her family.
    .-= Kim @ What’s That Smell?´s last blog ..A parent’s worst nightmare… =-.

  4. That is just awful. Her family will be in my prayers.

  5. beautiful sarah. She would probably be proud to read that gorgeous poem.
    .-= trisha´s last blog ..Update on Shellie. =-.

  6. Beautiful poem. Just hug and kiss your little ones every day! Let them know how much you love them. This is just so sad for Shellie.
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  7. Beautiful. I keep hugging and kissing my little boys. I’ve even peeked in on my little guy as he naps.

  8. That is just heartbreaking. I am so sorry for her loss and I am thinking of her family. I do not know this mother either, but can not fathom what she is going through right now.

  9. OMG! I’m so sadden by this news.I don’t know her but I do know how much a mother loves there children cause i’m a mom. Prayers to her and her family right now!
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  10. Oh no, that is the most awful terrible news. I just can’t imagine the heartache. I will get update from Momdot. Your poem is amazing and yes, take nothing for granted. Every second matters.
    .-= Lynn´s last blog ..Post It Note Tuesday =-.

  11. I saw it last night on Twitter. Kept thinking about it as I tried to fall asleep. I don’t know this mom, but my heart breaks for her.

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